Last week, we talked about what have our fathers become, and this week, all the world has seen an example of what husbands have become, albeit by the behavior of a dysfunctional one.
“The slap heard around the world” stirred up many questions and divisions, as the world tried to establish a socially acceptable definition of what a good husband does. Will and “The Slap” have been ridiculed and/or analyzed, defended and/or forgiven, and a week later it’s still being talked about, as if it happened yesterday. I don’t want to talk about the slap, who was more right between Chris or Will, I don’t want to talk about any of that, because the entire thing from the joke to the slap was a display of dysfunction… it is what it is. They have apologized to one another and the world, and life goes on. It would be good & functional, for Will (and other husbands like him), to have life go on, while understanding that divorce is acceptable and preferred in conditions like this, according to The Father of All, despite what current cultures and societies say.
For many men around the world who profess belief in The Bible, they sometimes find themselves in a quandary, if they are ever faced with what to do with an adulterous wife (a wife who has sex with another man, while she is married). Some of the perplexed Bible-believing men, find themselves pressured by church doctrine and well-meaning Christians, into forgiving their wives and taking them back. Many marriages do not survive adultery, and still, some do well. But what happens when couples go on “a break”? What happens when couples separate? What happens when couples divorce? And then, what happens if wives have sex with another man? Is the husband righteous if he forgives her and takes her back? The answer according to Scripture, not according to me, but according to The Most High Himself is: NO
Here is the verse which establishes the foundation and sets the precedent for any other scriptural verse:
“then her former husband who sent her away is NOT ALLOWED TO TAKE HER BACK to be his wife after SHE HAS BEEN DEFILED, for that would be an ABOMINATION before יהוה (YAH). And do not bring SIN on the land which יהוה your Elohim (God) is giving you as an inheritance.”Deḇarim (Deuteronomy) 24:4 TS2009
Yeah I know, I know… you never heard that verse in church. But let’s look at that verse considering what Will did, and what other husbands like him do, when they take back a wife after she has become another man’s woman sexually. Before we progress, if you didn’t know, this is what Will said about his & Jada’s marriage, “We decided that we were going to separate for a period of time and you go figure out how to make yourself happy and I’ll figure out how to make myself happy.” Jada also said that she and Will had been separated at the time she had sex with another man. So, Will sent her away, or as he put it, he was separated from her her. Now, the questions: did he give her a letter, was permission given through text message (a letter of our day), or was it merely an uncontested verbal agreement alone? I do not know, nor do I care enough to research it, but since they both said that they were separated, that speaks in agreement with the preceding verse in Deuteronomy 24:3 in case you question it.
So, according to both Will & Jada, they were separated, and Will essentially “sent her away”, Jada then had a sexual relationship (she called it an “entanglement”, but it was adultery no matter what she calls it), and after having sex with another man, Will took Jada back as his woman/wife. He is likely ignorant of what Scripture says, and if you were previously ignorant of what Scripture says, you can no longer claim ignorance. As I often say, when one is confronted with scriptural truth, one can no longer claim ignorance, but one can ignore the truth, which is a worse condition; I instead desire for all people to know the righteous instructions of The Father and to obey them. I digressed…
I, speaking of my own volition, in light of the Word of Yah, would desire that Will (and every other husband in his condition) knows that: a husband who takes his previously sent away wife back, after she has had sex with another man, has done an abominable thing; and divorce is a righteous response according to Scripture. You read the verse, I’m bringing out the truth of Scripture and exposing the works of darkness. As the apostle Paul/Shaul said “So then, have I become your enemy, speaking truth to you?”
Galatiyim (Galatians) 4:16 TS2009.
Will, does not display what it means to be a good husband, what he has and continues to showcase to his wife, children and the world is dysfunction, and the same goes for any husband who does the same. Men of The Most High YAH—WE must live righteous lives according to YAH’s instruction and unto YAH judgment. It’s not an option to obey His Word, we remember “obedience is better than sacrifice” (1 Samuel 15:22). This walk of ours, it ain’t for the weak. It requires strength and endurance, it requires real manhood. It often goes against what the world considers as “good examples to follow” but we must be men, husbands and fathers who follow YAH, not the ways of this world. Follow YAH, not the ways of the heathen.
“Brethren, be NOT children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children, but in understanding BE MEN.”1 Corinthians 14:20 KJV
Until next time, shalom ✌🏾